More Love: Bringing Up Polyamory, Swinging & Opening Up Your Relationship

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A Guest Blog Post By Sex Coach Lex

So, you know a couple people who are swinging and into “the Lifestyle”. And you’ve heard about this thing called “polyamory” or “non-monogamy”. Maybe you’ve even done some digging to figure out what it is. Now after a little bit of soul searching, you’ve decided that it’s something you want to try. There’s just one thing. You’re not single, you’re in a relationship already. Broaching this subject can bring up a lot of feelings for the both of you. So how do you approach discussing your interest in non-monogamy with your partner?

Introducing the Difficult Conversation Formula

This formula was put together by Reid Mihalko and I use it often with my clients (or I will create a variation from it that applies to their specific situation). There are three parts to the difficult conversation formula you need to put together on your own before you make the approach.

1. What I’m trying to tell you is . . .

First fill in, “What I’m trying to tell you is…” In this case, you’re trying to share that you are interested in non-monogamy and would like to know how your partner feels about that, or if they are also interested in exploring that topic with you. Make sure to find what your intention truly is and put it in your own words. After all, they’re your partner, not mine.

2. What I’m afraid might happen . . .

Second, answer “what I’m afraid might happen if I tell you is…” There’s a reason, or likely several, why you have been holding back from having this conversation. Be honest. Take the time to be vulnerable. One of the cornerstones of committed relationships is being able to be vulnerable with one another.

3. What I’d like to have happen . . .

Finally, answer “What I’d like to have happen by saying this is…” Here is where we find hope and motivation. What’s the best-case scenario? On the most fundamental level all difficult conversations are about being seen, being understood or understanding one another, and growth. For you it may be that you would like your partner to see that this in no way negates your commitment to them, or that they may see this a way for you to both grow. Again, you are sharing your truth so make sure to put it in your words.

Putting it all together

Now for actually making the approach. Begin by asking your partner if they have the emotional bandwidth for a difficult conversation. If yes, proceed. If no, schedule some time to have that talk. Once you have the go ahead, begin by letting them know that there is something that you have been wanting to talk to them about. Then, use your responses to the second question to let them know why you’ve been afraid to talk about this. Follow that up with your response to the third question to let them know what you are hoping their response will be like. Finally let them know what you have been wanting to talk about.

Once you have finished, make sure to thank your partner for listening and ask if they have anything to share in response. 

Special Considerations for Non-Monogamy Intentions

For the sake of this article I have assumed that you aren’t interested in opening up for the wrong reasons. While there is no one right reason to engage in non-monogamy, there are several wrong reasons and I’d like to rule out one in particular.

I think the most common mistake may be thinking that opening up a relationship can fix problems that a relationship already has. Non-monogamy is not a salve for relationship troubles. According to Dr. Elizabeth Sheff, who has done multi-year long research studies on polyamory in families and relationships, while a few people may have saved their marriages with polyamory, it is extremely rare. Polyamory, and non-monogamy in general, has a tendency to exacerbate and bring out any troubles that already exist in relationships. It’s like clicking the fast-forward button on your relationship. You probably would have dealt with these issues 10 years from now, but instead you get to deal with them all in the first year of your relationship. Hurray!

Your Partner’s Reactions

If you have been researching this for a while, remember that your feelings about non-monogamy are not new and your knowledge about it is likely to be much greater than your partner’s. As a result, your partner’s reaction might be much stronger than you expected. That’s because for them, this is coming out of the blue. They may also have a lot of negative (or toxic) ideas about how relationships “ought” to be, and that if you want to explore something outside of your own relationship, there must be something wrong inside it. The most important thing is to assure them that this is not about them. Your interest in exploring this is about your own growth and not a response to them doing something wrong. Also, that it is not about something being wrong with the relationship.

Be prepared to hear some bad news. You might find out that your partner actually does have some problem with the relationship you are in, or that something you did has made them lose trust in you (Remember how I told you polyamory is like clicking fast-forward on your relationship troubles?). You wrote down your fears for a reason, and even the most well-crafted and well-delivered messages can be received in ways completely unrelated to your intentions. This isn’t exclusive to non-monogamy in any form. Any difficult conversation can be a test of your relationship.

What’s next? Don’t Rush

Let’s say that your conversation does go well, what’s next? Don’t rush things. You won’t be going on dates tomorrow. There is a lot more for both of you to learn and work through before actively engaging in non-monogamy. Depending on where you begin, it might be a couple of months until you are ready, or as much as a year before you are ready. If you are in this relationship for the long haul, then that time invested is a drop in the bucket. And even if you end up finding out non-monogamy isn’t right for you, the skills required for exploring diverse relationship structures are a huge boost to any relationship.

A Note On Terms: Non-Monogamy, Polyamory and Swinging

Various forms of non-monogamy have been discussed media lately. More specifically you probably heard about polyamory, swinging, or open relationships. While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging* (and there are countless other arrangements if you really like labels) are all different forms of non-monogamy they all have one thing in common.

All forms of non-monogamy (the umbrella term) change out our societal default idea of a romantic and sexual relationship being limited to only two people, for one where more than two people can be involved. Putting it that way may make it sound simple, but the impact of questioning something that a person has never even considered possible to question can be revolutionary. It is also destabilizing, which can be scary to navigate.

* Polyamory and swinging are particularly different as the communities that have formed around them have very different core values.

About Sex Coach Lex

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Coach Lex is the founder of SCL Coaching and Consulting, LLC. He is a WASC certified sex coach who specializes in sexual communication in order to create a world where people can speak about sex as comfortably as they speak about breakfast. His work includes individuals, couples, and the polyamorous community, as well as the LGBT and kink communities (GSRD groups). Lex facilitates groups, workshops, and works with clients worldwide.

Coach Lex publishes a weekly blog on his website sexcoachlex.com known as The Bad Sex Advice Blog, where he deconstructs bad sex advice and sex myths, explains what makes them bad, and what you can do instead.

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Podcasts On The Swinging Lifestyle

The 23 Best Swinging Lifestyle Podcasts

For anyone exploring the swinging lifestyle, we have put together a list of podcasts created by people who are experts in “the Lifestyle”. Whether you just want to get your feet wet or take a deep dive,  there are hundreds of episodes on this list and at least one that is sure to satisfy your curiosities.

If you didn’t see our recent relationship terms primer, we recommend brushing up on the basic terms that you’ll likely hear a lot of throughout these podcasts.

Plug in your earbuds and hit play for some utterly entertaining talks on swinging, polyamory, non-monogamy, and the lifestyle . . .

The List: 23 Best Swing Lifestyle Podcasts

Average Swingers – J and Angie are just your Average Swingers, discussing their lifestyle adventures.

Bed Hoppers – A podcast all about the journey and adventures in the swinging lifestyle in the UK.

Bliss Bringers – A Sex, Swinging lifestyle & Kink Podcast.

Casual Swinger – Join Mickey & Mallory as they share their journey through “the lifestyle” and exploring the world of alternative relationships all while being normal humans with jobs, dogs & kids.

Life on the Swingset – Life on the Swingset the Podcast is a podcast covering a variety of topics from swinging to polyamory to ethical non-monogamy in a fun and entertaining way.

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Loving without Boundaries – Hear interviews, lessons and insights on the subjects of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. They seek to promote healthy relationships, tolerance and understanding – whether you are already living a life of ethical non-monogamy or are among the curious.

Multiamory – Conventional relationship advice is toxic and outdated. We offer new ideas and advice for multiple forms of love: everything from conscious monogamy to ethical polyamory and radical relationship anarchy

Nerds who Swing – A Swinger Lifestyle podcast hosted by the sexy Margo & Miller.

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Normalizing Non-Monogamy – Two 30 somethings, Emma and Fin,  exploring non-monogamy together for over a decade. Each week they interview people to hear their approach to non-monogamy, what it means to them, and how it has strengthened and shaped their lives. Out of Pittsburgh, PA. Read our full ask-me-anything interview on swinging, polyamory and more here . . .

Our naughty Escapades – Ben and Jen have been married for 26 years and in the lifestyle for about 8 years. At first, they just wanted to enhance their sex life but soon they discovered the lifestyle helped them grow stronger as a couple in other areas of life.

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Polyamory Weekly – Minx and her listeners discuss loving more and polyamory. In this community-driven show, each week Minx talks sex, relationships, communication, family, erotica, psychology, orgasms and anything else that comes up in the ins and outs of the daily polyamorous lifestyle.

Sapphic Swingers – Listen to the swinging adventures of a married lesbian couple

Sex on the Counter – Join the hosts  as they drink tasty brews, talk all things “lifestyle”, sex and marriage  with a few great laughs & stories along the way.

Sex Uninterrupted – Join the 30-something couple Taara & James as they tell you everything you wanted to know about the swinger lifestyle & Non-monogamy. Broadcasting from Alberta, Canada.

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Sex with Dr. Jess – Dr. Jess hosted PlayboyTV’s hit series Swing and her podcast touches on everything from healthy communication and the psychology of sex to orgies and opening up relationships. Co-hosted by her husband, Brandon Ware, the duo interview psychologists, comedians, therapists and porn stars — all in the name of providing science-based sex and relationship advice you can use tonight.

Sharing is caring – Kiwi and Cherie, a New Zealand and French couple living in London in an open relationship exploring the swinging lifestyle, sex positivity and ethical non-monogamy.

Spiritual Swingers – Meet Adam and Eve . . . the Spiritual Swingers.  An early 40’s couple, together since high school, navigating the swinging lifestyle and  exploring the intersection of Spirituality, Science, and Sexuality.Swinger Diaries PodcastSwinger Diaries – Penn and Paige are a mid-forties swinging couple living in the midwest. We have been in the swinging lifestyle since 2010 and host a podcast that seeks to inform, educate and expose people to the joys and benefits of swinging and to record a journal of a few of our sexy experiences.

Swinging Along – A married couple living a not so “normal” sex life full of kinkiness and adventure. Sharing their stories and answering your questions on all things sex and relationships.

Torrid Souls – Exploring the sexually social and adventurous swinging lifestyle as lovers and parents.

Two or More to Tango – Meet your normal next door neighbors, very happily married for a LONG time, who accidentally stumbled into the swinging lifestyle! They share their adventures as they explore the sometimes unpredictable lifestyle, sharing the ups and downs, and everything in between.

The Unicorn Report – The sexy adventures of a single bisexual woman in the lifestyle. Thank you Snuggly Dave for the write-in suggestion. (Single bi women are called “unicorns” as they are hard to find, i.e. rare mythical creatures.)

We Gotta Thing – A long time married couple chronicling their personal adventures and share sex positive discussions while they navigate their way through the swinging lifestyle.

Also, be sure to check out our list of the best sex-positive podcasts here . . .

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Disclaimers & Such

We have not reviewed or listened to every episode of every podcast on this list and the views and opinions expressed on these shows do not necessarily reflect our own. When we say “best swinging lifestyle podcasts” we are really saying these are the biggest ones that we have found. The list is alphabetical, not ranked, to reflect this. All content is intended for adults 21+.

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Love In All Its Forms: Poly, Swing, Kink and More

An Alternative Relationship Terms Primer

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Sex Positive

We don’t claim to be experts on all the types of relationships we mention here. But we do celebrate love, romance and sex amongst consenting adults. Sexuality is part of the human experience and it’s our hope to create an environment that is non-judgmental, balanced, and open-minded. Therefore, in an effort to start a sex-positive conversation with and better serve our customers, we’ve boned-up(!) on the overlapping worlds of swing, poly and kink. Here’s our starting point; a work-in-progress primer.

Comments, Links & Kinks Welcome

We invite you to add your comments below . . .

Sex-Positive Relationship Terms & Definitions

To start any clear conversation, it’s helpful to clarify the terms.

24/7 – An agreement whereby there is consensual power exchange full time; 24 hours, 7 days a week.

Abundant Love – The concept that love is not finite therefore it is possible to love more than one person at the same time. As defined by polyamorous author, Franklin Veaux.

Alternative Sexuality – An umbrella term for non-traditional sexual orientation, non-monogamy, gender and sexual expression such as kink or BDSM.

BDSM – An abbreviation containing within it three unique acronyms: B&D which stands for Bondage & Discipline, D/s which stands for Dominance & submission, and S&M or Sadism and Masochism. Together, BDSM represents a full spectrum of sexual activities and relationship models. As explained by Stefani Goerlich, LMSW.

Bi-Curious – A man or woman who is interested in trying same-sex activities.

Bipoly – Refers to a person who is polyamorous and bisexual

Sexy lace-up Black Teddy GiftBisexual – Interested in both sexes. The terms “versatile” and “AC/DC” are also used in this same way.

Casual Sex – Sexual activity that takes places outside a romantic relationship and implies an absence of commitment, emotional attachment, or familiarity between sexual partners (i.e. The one-night stand).

CBT – Refers to cock and ball torture.

Closed Swinging – This is where partners swap, but have sexual intercourse in separate rooms.

Compersion – The opposite of jealousy. The act of having a good feeling when one’s partner enjoys sex/ desire with another partner. The term was coined by Kerista Commune.

Consensual Nonmonogamy – An umbrella term for polyamory, open relationships, swinging and other consensual non-monogamous relationships. See ethical nonmonogamy.

Cuckolding – This term can be used several different ways. Historically it referred to the husband of a wife who cheats, and often carried some fairly racist connotations. Now it can indicate a husband whose wife plays without him then comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who wants to or is forced to watch his wife play with others- sometimes while being told how much better the other man is at pleasing his wife than he is.

Daddy Dom/Mommy Dom – A Dominant whose dominance comes out through paternal/maternal expressions. Sometimes referred to as a “Gentle Dom/me.”

black lace blindfold giftDiscipline – These are disciplinary actions which arouse the sexual desires by controlling the behavior. Often involving rules, restrictions (of behavior or movement), and other limitations imposed by one partner on another; it can also include consequences up to and including physical punishment when these are not followed. As explained by Stefani Goerlich, LMSW.

Dominant – A person who exercises control and authority over their partner. Contrast with submissive.

DP – Stands for double penetration.

Edge Play – Any practice which challenges the limits or boundaries (emotionally, physically, and/or psychologically) of one or more of the participants. Can also refer to sexual activity involving actual sharp edges such as blades or sharp objects. From The Submissive Guide.

Ellis – A code name used to identify other swingers. Ellis stands for L.S. or Lifestyle. Thus, “Are you a friend of Ellis?” can be used to identify a member of the lifestyle without compromising confidentiality.

Enthusiastic Consent – All parties involved don’t just say yes to consent but say, “hell yes” i.e. with enthusiasm.

Ethical- Polyamory or Ethical Non-Monogamy – A form of non-monogamy in which every person involved understands and has agreed to non-monogamy. As explained by Sex Educator, Angel Kalafatis.

Figging – Placing a piece of raw, peeled ginger into someone’s anus and/or vagina. This creates a warm, burning sensation that some people find erotic and/ or painful. Also called gingering.

Generous – One code used to indicate when someone is willing to exchange money for sex.

Hanky Code – A traditional form of signaling what your sexual preferences and interests are, typically used among gay men. See the meaning of all the different color codes here.

Hard Swap or full swap – A situation in which two or more couples are free to enjoy nearly all types of sexual activities with other couples, including penetrative sex. From (a source we love), Kinkly.

Hard Swing – A swing party where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.

Impact Play – Refers to hitting or spanking a partner’s body, either with the hand or with an implement such as wooden spoon, crop, or flogger.

feather handcuffs sexy accessoryKink – A broad umbrella term for people with a fetish or fetishes that are perceived as abnormal to the public. Dr. Liz Powell, a kink-friendly sex therapist says, “Kink is used as a larger term to indicate anything that is not sort of run of the mill interaction,” This can include a huge range of practices from biting, bondage, BDSM, spanking, cuckolding. The kink communities have some overlap with, but are not synonymous with, polyamory.

Little Girl/Boy – A submissive whose expression takes the form of childlike tropes such as pastel colors, toys, and role playing a younger persona. This practice is entirely distinct from and has nothing to do with the sexualization of children. It focuses on submission through embracing innocence.

Love outside the box – Refers to sex positivism and polyamory or “relationships that go beyond the norm in some way, in gender, number, expression, or style.” By Dawn Davidson, of Love Outside The Box.

Masochist – Someone who derives sexual pleasure out of receiving pain, intense sensation, or emotional humiliation. Note, not all dominants identify as sadists, and not all submissive identify as masochists.

Mistress – Typically known as an extramarital lover (female), but also defined as a woman in a position of authority or control. A female Dominant may be referred to as “Mistress” by her submissive.

Monogamish – A term coined by Dan Savage to mean “not totally monogamous relationship”. Monogamish relationships assume that parties have mutual consent as opposed to non-consent which would be infidelity.

Monogamy – The state or practice of having only one sexual partner at a time.

Moresomes – A sexual encounter with more than three people.

purple sexy crotchless harness gift setNew Paradigm Relating – “A way of loving, or a set of parameters for doing relationships” where “Love is treated as a free gift rather than as a claim.” From Vonn New’s article “New Paradigm Relationships.”  Does not inherently correlate with polyamory but there is overlap.

New Relationship Energy or NRE – The passionate spark or excited state of mind that one feels from a new relationship typically involving sexual feelings and excitement. Usually lasts a few weeks to a few months after entering into the relationship.

Nonconsensual Non-Monogamy – In simple terms, cheating or adultery.

Omnisexual – To address hostility to people who self-identify as bisexual, the term omnisexual has started to become popular as a synonym for bisexual but without the negative connotations of the word. From More Than Two.

One Penis Policy – Whereby the man is allowed to have many sexual female partners, but the women may not have sex with other men.

One Vagina Policy – The One Penis Policy in reverse. Whereby the woman is allowed to have many sexual male partners, but the man may not have sex with other women.

Open Relationship or Open Marriage – An agreement that each partner can have sex with other people, under various conditions and with specific limitations. According to sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman.

Open Swinging – This kind of swinging allows partners to swap and have sexual intercourse in the same room, or bed.

Orgasm Control – A technique where you build yourself (or your partner) up to the point of orgasm without climaxing, then you stop. Sometimes also called ‘edging’ but not the same as ‘edge play’ (see definition above). From The ABCs of Kink.

Orgasm Denial – A form of Discipline and Dominance in which the receiving partner is not allowed to climax during sexual activity. This restriction may last for one encounter, be time limited (no orgasms for one week) or in some cases be a permanent relationship rule.

Orgy – A party which involves unrestrained indulgence, especially in sexual activity.

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Polyamory – Engaging in emotionally intimate relationships among multiple people that can also be sexual and/or romantic partners. Also called an open relationship or a non-monogamous relationship.

Polyandry – One woman married to multiple husbands.

Polycule – A romantic network made up of a polyamorous person’s lovers and partners. It can include several or many people. The term is a portmanteau of “polyamory” and “molecule”.

Polyfidelity – A polyamorous relationship where only in-group sex is allowed unless the group approves other additions. The term was coined by Kerista Commune,  whose adherents are also considered to author the term “compersion”.

Polygamy – One (typically heterosexual) man is married to multiple wives.

RACK – Stands for “risk aware consensual kink. While not eliminating all risks, the persons involved decide how to address and manage the risks involved.

Sadist – Someone who consensually derives sexual pleasure out of inflicting intense physical sensation, up to and including pain and/or psychological or emotional distress on their partner.

naughty teacher ruler roleplaySafe Word – A prearranged word serving as an unambiguous signal to end an activity, such as between a dominant and submissive sexual couple.

Sex Positive – A movement and mindset focusing on promoting and embracing sexuality, rather than shame, and avoiding ethical or moral judgments around sexuality. The terms and concept of sex-positive are generally attributed to Wilhelm Reich who also coined the phrase “the sexual revolution.”

Soft Swap – Soft swapping can range from having sex in the same room with other people, to fondling and for some couples, even oral sex with one or more people outside the couple. Once there is penetration beyond the partner, it’s considered a “full swap”. From Life On The Swing Set.

Soft Swing – Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner, but do so in the presence of others. Can also be two couples who agree to watch each other during sexual activities.

Submissive – Person who derives satisfaction by giving up control of certain aspects of their lives, behavior or bodies to a Dominant partner. From Rekink.

Sugar Baby – A person, typically younger, who enters into an agreement with a Sugar Daddy/Mama to be financial supported in exchange for sexual and emotional affection.

Sugar Daddy / Mama – A well-to-do, usually older, person who supports or spends lavishly on a typically younger mistress, girlfriend, or boyfriend.

Swingers / Swinging / “The Lifestyle” – A form of open relationship where a committed couple engages in consensual sex with other couples, singles, or groups. The swinger community often refers to itself as “The Lifestyle.”

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Throuples – Couples who invite a third party into their relationship.

Threesome – Three people in a sexual encounter.

Triad – Three people in an ongoing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.

Unicorn – A single, generally bi-sexual female that participates in the lifestyle. Referred to as “unicorns” because they are so rare.

Thank You

Sincere thanks to Stefani Goerlich, LMSW, of Bound Together Counseling, for reviewing this piece and giving valuable input. Bound Together Counseling offers client-centered, empowerment focused, affirming and inclusive counseling services from a sex-positive, feminist perspective.

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11. A Galentines gift to pamper your gals

Prete is a blowout service created by serial entrepreneur Nina Ojeda. They partner with the best salons in each city to get you blowout appointments whenever you want them – just download and book through their mobile app. You can’t go wrong with the gift of a good hair day! Blowouts start at $38.

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12. A Galentines gift for fantasy land

TuTu Lou, created by Louise Overman (our founder’s beloved cousin) who produces hand-made, over-the-top custom tutu’s that fulfill any fantasy, dreams to be, holiday’s to bedazzle, show’s to steal, events to shine in, occasions that you are the one remembered rather than it or just because it’s Tuesday and you are ready to strut! Prices vary as each tutu is custom to your needs.

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13. A Galentines gift for the hands-on gal

Stephanie Shipman is an experienced woodworker who started a women-only woodshop series called “…And I Built it with my Vagina!!!” While it is not always the case, women often feel intimidated when it comes to building things in a commonly male-driven environment. Ranging from shop orientations to more advanced projects, she provides a safe, fun environment for women and female-identifying individuals to learn skills and gain confidence. Workshops only available from their San Leandro, CA shop. Rates vary.

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14. A Galentines gift for the conscious gal

Suggested by lingerie entrepreneur, Stephanie Bodnar owner of Evgenia lingerie, Black Mountain Beauty was developed by Marnie Jackson with a mission of creating a zero-waste beauty line. After spending many weekends picking up plastic garbage on local ocean beaches, she wanted to make a change by reducing plastic use. She creates simple, organic, cruelty-free beauty products in biodegradable or refillable packaging. Marnie proves that living a sustainable lifestyle doesn’t have to break the bank with items ranging $4.50 to $30. Be sure to check out her special Valentines gift set for an even sweeter deal.

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15. A Galentines gift to make a fashion statement

Gift Wraps, created by business ‘besties’ Kenya Adjekum Bradshaw and Rochelle Griffin, offers beautifully bold head wraps using exotic fabrics from across the globe, as well as extraordinary, handmade jewelry and accessories. This Galentines gift is anything but boring! Head wraps are $24-$28.

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16. A Galentines gift for the purse lover

Created by Karin Chriss and Andrea Stieff, Bosom Buddy Bags is a woman owned and operated handbag company specializing in custom crafted and designed handbags. Make a gal feel special with her own custom made, one-of-a-kind handbag. Custom gags range from $135 to $250.

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17. A Galentines gift for the balanced babe

Suggested by filmmaker extraordinaire, Chemere Williams (AKA Exoticface Mamamia), creator of One2Four Web Series – Komari Bath & Body is created by Yolanda Berry offering handmade aromatherapy-based soaps and natural skin care products. She firmly believes in holistic healing, and that you can get through anything if your mind, body, and spirit are balanced. Gifts range from $5 to $28.

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18. A Galentines gift for the mischievous ones

Created by Stacey Fischer, Lusty Letter is a positively naughty line of greeting cards that will have your gals gasping. Upon first glance, Lusty Letter cards are nice, friendly, and respectable; but upon closer inspection, they reveal a surprisingly naughty message. Cards are $5-$7, the laughter is priceless.

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19. A Galentines gift for the senses

Jewel Zimmer has a background as a fine-dining pastry chef and is a certified sommelier, so she knows a little something about the finer things in life. Her company, Juna, is a sophisticated line of cannabis and hemp oils that can be consumed to awaken pleasure physically, spiritually, and emotionally. Their HEMP drops are available online and will not cause inebriation or inhibit functioning, so you can feel confident in going about your routine. $75.

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20. A Galentines gift that’s too cool for school

Our founder, Antonia, saw this beyond-cool sweatshirt in yoga and had to know the origin. The source of this wit is 17 year-old Avery Van Natta, a self-taught designer who is in the process of launching her own brand. Our uniform violations never looked this cool. And yes, Avery does wear a uniform to school. $25.

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21. A Galentines gift for the traveler

Suggested by Michele Lee,these eye-catching luggage covers by Yvette Crocker are sure to turn heads in any airport, not to mention save you time spotting your luggage at the turnstile. Yvette is a self-taught visual artist, illustrator, and jewelry designer. Her online shop offers an array of products featuring her signature fashion illustrations – she’s also taking on clients for custom work! A range of items from $40 to $150.

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Disclaimer: While we have not tried or tested all of these products or services, this post is not sponsored by any of the companies listed.

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Podcasts and Enclosed Lingerie Subscription Club

[ENCLOSED] Lingerie Subscription Club and Your Favorite Podcast

Perhaps you’ve heard about [ENCLOSED] while listening to a recent podcast? Perhaps you even heard mention of a coupon code for [ENCLOSED] gifts? Perhaps you just want to know about a new podcast to download. Well, here is a list of some of the podcasts we adore . . .

Dumb People Town –  They aren’t dumb. But they do go to town with humor and some seriously fun banter. Comprised of the Sklar brothers, Daniel Van Kirk and more.

The Irish Whip –  Independent pro wrestling coverage with a twist hosted by Josh “Yeti” Richards.

SWISH! –  All about NBA basketball with Darnell Jones.

Total Soccer Show –  The show is focused on analyzing soccer and explaining how and why things happen on and off the field with a major focus on US Men’s National Team, as well as the Champions League, the Premier League, Major League Soccer and plenty more.

Landry Football Podcast – The Landry Football Podcast is a weekly look at the NFL and College game, where the veteran coach and scout Chris Landry offers his unique insights into players, coaches, teams and schemes as he breaks down the film and lets you on the inside of what is going on in the game.

Wide Men Can’t Jump – A unique NBA experience from two life long fans who create entertainment and information for the casual and die hard fans.

SONTSports: A Daily Debate About Sports –  Daily sports content. Good content.

The Zone Coverage Football Machine Podcast – The Andy Luke & Arif Football Machine is a weekly conversation between two cerebral football minds…. and Andy Carlson. And an awesome tagline, “Without professional sports, the Twin Cities would be just a Cold Omaha.”

The Sports Thoughts Podcast – Listen to good friends, former college roommates, and professional sports bettors Jerry and Kieran (Berryhorse) as they share their views on sports and gambling.

Cubs Related Podcast – Cubs Related is a Chicago Cubs podcast.

Arsenal Vision Post Match Podcast – The Arsenal Vision Post Match Podcast is a labor of love created by people from all over the world united in support for Arsenal Football Club. Sometimes funny, sometimes serious, occasionally ribald and hopefully always enjoyable.

Turning This Car Around – Turning This Car Around is a podcast about parenthood from three dads, Lex Friedman, John Moltz and Jon Armstrong.

3 People Like This – An improvisational comedy series rated as one of the best comedy podcasts on iTunes. Growing up in Brooklyn no one is sheltered, nothing is sugar-coated, and life’s extremes are the norm.

Locked On Warriors – Drew Shiller and Grant Liffman bring Warriors fans inside their team and the NBA with the daily podcast Locked on Warriors part of the Locked on Podcast Network

Also, be sure to check out our list of the best sex-positive podcasts here . . .

About [ENCLOSED]

At [ENCLOSED] we are on a mission to help the gift-giver demonstrate his or her adoration for the woman they love. Serving 17,000+ customers in 19+ countries, [ENCLOSED] sends out thousands of lingerie gifts every month from its San Francisco headquarters. Sourcing lingerie from the finest lingerie designers world-wide, we help gift-givers express their love and desire with a truly romantic, memorable gift experience like no other.

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Lingerie News – Launch Of New Body Lingerie Subscription Service

[ENCLOSED], the World’s Finest Lingerie Subscription Service Launches New Premium Body Lingerie Offerings

San Francisco, CA. For immediate release on October 2, 2018. [ENCLOSED] is launching a new line of lingerie gift offerings for couples designed with the romantic gift-giver in mind. Going beyond the monthly delivery of knickers, this new service rolling out October 6, 2018 allows a person to surprise his or her love with a different lingerie piece every month. For instance, she might get a dusty pink lace teddy one month, then a black silk robe the next.

The Only Gift Service Specifically Designed For The Gift Giver

While there are dozens of companies that deliver panties monthly, [ENCLOSED] was and is the only lingerie gift service designed specifically for the person searching for a romantic, luxury gift for his/her love. [ENCLOSED] is committed to innovating the subscription industry’s business model by hand selecting each piece for the recipient rather than relying on a impersonal algorithm.

Customer Demand & Feedback Inspires New Lingerie Offerings

For two years now, [ENCLOSED] has been tapping it’s tens of thousands of customers, collecting feedback and product testing. The largely straight male customer base has been asking “the knicker ladies” for gift options that expand beyond the luxury panty range. Listening to that feedback, [ENCLOSED] will be offering multi-month lingerie subscriptions in addition to its pre-existing knicker subscriptions. As [ENCLOSED] gifts are ultimately about love, the new offerings are called the “Lingerie Love”, with products that include a variety of assorted bodywear ranging from bralette sets, nighties, teddies, rompers, robes, sleepwear, to ultra-sexy clandestine lingerie.

Tapping An Under-Served Market

[ENCLOSED] is not only responding to their customers, but filling a niche in the current lingerie market. Lingerie subscriptions will be priced from $130 to $1,300, reflecting the highest quality of concierge service and luxury designer lingerie. These prices enable [ENCLOSED] to capture the under-serviced upper-end market just below Agent Provocateur, yet considerably above the usual boutique or department store offerings.

New Offerings: Beta and Future Pricing

The new offerings launch October 6, but until then customers can access the beta products at the lower price-points.
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Deepening Opportunities For Love & Connection

“Since launching [ENCLOSED] in 2014, we have remained committed to our mission of inspiring love and connection through monthly couple’s gifts” says owner and founder Antonia Townsend. “We don’t just sell lingerie. Our mission is based on celebrating human connection and inspiring intimacy on a deeper level. Our service enables the gift-giver to demonstrate his adoration for the woman he loves, showing her just how beautiful she is in his eyes. It’s deeply moving to see the impact that the simple gesture of giving the dark purple [ENCLOSED] box can have” says Townsend.

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At [ENCLOSED] we are on a mission to help the gift-giver demonstrate his or her adoration for the woman they love. Serving 17,000+ customers in 19+ countries, [ENCLOSED] sends out thousands of lingerie gifts every month from its San Francisco headquarters. Sourcing lingerie from the finest designers world-wide, we help gift-givers express their love and desire with a truly romantic, memorable gift experience like no other.

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Valentine Gift Shopping Day In SF’s Dogpatch

Love Dogpatch is a Dogpatch neighborhood crawl with pop-ups, potions and Valentine’s gifts for everyone. Looking for a sexy gift for your wife here in SF? Or as sweet Valentine gift for your mother? Or just a way to fill a lazy Saturday in SF? Amble around the Dogpatch for this whole-family event. (But in case you are not feeling so family, there are usually cups of wine and sips of booze available through out the crawl. Phew.)

A Valentine’s Day Pop Up Event

The Valentine event is Saturday, February 10th, from 11 AM – 4 PM throughout the Dogpatch. We’ll be at , Velocipede Cyclery at 2405 3rd St, San Francisco, CA 94107. (The cross streets are 20th and 22nd streets).

Valentine Gifts Of Lingerie And Much More . . .

Enclosed will be offering an array of Valentine lingerie treats with specials ranging from free bralettes to smoldering teddies, to utterly-demure nighties. Come see a range of our lingerie offerings and take hope your lingerie gift just in time for V-day.

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Shop SF’s Dogpatch Just Before Valentine’s Day

The Valentine event is Saturday, February 10th, from 11am – 4pm throughout the Dogpatch, in San Francisco. (Just in case you aren’t in-the-know, that’s just down the hill towards the bay from Potrero Hill.) And yes, the event is a FREE event with all ages welcome.  Map of the Love Dogapatch event here>

Our Hosts: Velocipede Cyclery

We’ll be popping up at Velocipede, an awesome bike shop based right near us in the Dogpatch, San Francisco with bikes, accessories and services for everyone from the serious athlete to the tike needing a scoot bike. There will be special snacks, drinks, make-a-Valentine activities, as well as amazing cycling-related gifts and specials.

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Lots of Valentine’s Gift Options Right Here In SF’s Dogpatch

Other events throughout the Dogpatch include:

Smokestack at 2505 3rd Street in the Dogpatch, SF is hosting:

  • Animal Instincts
  • DYV Studio
  • The Didi Jewelry Project
  • Jennifer Clifford Art
  • Mettagood
  • Maya Bauman Design
  • Rag Doll Designs
  • Lines By Anna
  • Jenny Leddy Designs
  • Agave Rose
  • The Bloom Equation

Triple Aught Design at 660 22nd Street in the Dogpatch, SF

Recchiuti Confections at the Lab at 801 22nd Street in the Dogpatch, SF

Industrious Life at 1095 Tennessee Street in the Dogpatch, SF

Workshop Residence at 833 22nd Street in the Dogpatch, SF

Spicer on 3rd at 2341 3rd Street in the Dogpatch, SF is hosting 9th & Larkin Chocolate popup & demo

Poco Dolce at 2421 3rd Street in the Dogpatch, SF. Offering Valentine’s Day treats + a special on Valentine’s Day boxes

Center Hardware at 3003 3rd Street in the Dogpatch, SF is offering DIY make / take activity snacks and hosting:

  • Green Hen Plant design
  • Michael Reed paintings
  • Fabula Tea
  • Indigo Shibori — upcycled clothing from Bill Wallage
  • Fidget Fingers – Ceramic mosaics
  • needle art + craft books
  • Bayview Pasta SF

Museum of Craft and Design at 2569 3rd Street in the Dogpatch, SF. Offering free admission to the museum, free vinyl Valentine card crafts and $5 PBR + DIY Coozie craft

Stashed SF at 2348 3rd Street in the Dogpatch, SF

Triple Voodoo Brewery at 2245 3rd Street in the Dogpatch, SF. Triple Voodoo will release two new beers; and host Slow and Oak BBQ food popup

Hugomento at 807 22nd Street in the Dogpatch, SF is offering a Pop-up + raffle

Rickshaw Bagworks in the Dogpatch, SF is hosting:

  • Saison Beauty Popup offering Special Valentine Gift Sets
  • McRoskey Mattress Co. with a pillow sale and a social media selfie-station
  • Argentine Tango with Christy Cote of “Christy’s Tango Loft”

Noon All Day at 690 Indiana Street will offer First Day of Brunch Offerings

Find a map and more details at LoveDogpatch.com

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Valentines Day Facts, Figures and Gift Giving Insights

Valentine’s Day Facts From The Vday Gift Experts

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For years, [ENCLOSED] has been a leader in delivering unforgettable, romantic gifts to couples around the globe. Moreover, we’ve sent over 3,500 Valentine’s gifts out. We expertly maneuver the intricacies of providing unique romantic experiences with the aim of bringing couples closer together. Thousands of happy customers receive our monthly gifts of designer-quality lingerie, and the data we collect on Valentines orders has given us valuable insights into trends of romantic gifting with fun Valentines fact(s).

If you would like more information about our data or have any questions, please contact us directly.

Valentines Fact: The Smaller The Size, The Racier The Lingerie.

[ENCLOSED] has seen one-to-one correlation between size of wearer and the raciness of the gift, with those ordering smaller sizes correlating with more risqué styles such as thongs, gstrings and “clandestine” options.
Data Source: [ENCLOSED] Valentine’s orders, 2015-2017.

Valentines Fact: 19% Of Americans Get Vday Gifts For Their Pets.

Around 19% of consumers buy their pets a gift on Valentine’s Day, spending approximately $681 million total in the U.S. alone.

Valentines Fact: Men Spend Twice As Much As Women On Gifts.

valentines day infographic statsWomen are cheaper than men on Valentine’s Day. On average, men spend double the amount of money on Valentine’s Day gifts than women spend. The average amount a man spends is $133.61 vs. women who spend around $62.14

Valentines Fact: Lesbians Are The BIG Spenders.

While (straight) men make up the bulk of [ENCLOSED] ‘s customers, lesbian women are the big spenders, being three times as likely to buy year-long subscriptions as men.
Data Source: [ENCLOSED] Valentine’s orders, 2015-2017.

Valentines Fact: Bulk Of Gift Buying Happens 4 To 12 Days Before Vday.

Most Valentine’s Day gift purchases happen from 12, 7 and 4 days before the big day. [ENCLOSED] sees the most popular gifting dates as the 2nd, 7th, 10th of February.
Data Source: [ENCLOSED] Valentine’s orders, 2015-2017.

Valentines Fact: Will You Marry Me?

8% of American consumers plan on popping the question on Valentine’s Day.

Valentines Fact: Black Lingerie Is Still The Most Popular.

Black – not red or pink – is the number one most requested color for Valentine’s Day. (24% more requested than red and 175% more frequently than pink.)
Data Source: [ENCLOSED] Valentine’s orders, 2015-2017.

Valentines Fact: Last Minute Love.

More than 50% of Valentine’s Day cards are purchased after February 8th.

Valentines Fact: Consumers Spend More At Xmas.

Men spend 24% more on Christmas than they do on Valentine’s Day Lingerie.
Data Source: [ENCLOSED] Valentine’s and Christmas orders, 2015-2017.

Valentines Fact: No Glove, No Love.

According to the condom company Durex, condom sales are are 20–30% higher than usual.

Valentines Fact: Strong Thong Demand.

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Demand for thongs – always the most popular panty style – increases by 24% for Valentine’s Day.
Data Source: [ENCLOSED] Valentine’s orders 2015-2017.

Valentines Fact: String Her Along.

Demand for G-Strings increase by 29% for Valentine’s Day.
Data Source: [ENCLOSED] Valentine’s orders 2015-2017.

Valentines Fact: VD For Vday.

Penicillin, a popular treatment for venereal diseases such as syphilis, was introduced to the world on February 14, 1929.

Valentines Fact: Hello Big Spender.

On an average we have found men in Wyoming and Maine spend the most on gifts, up to $400 for their special lady.
Data Source: [ENCLOSED] Valentine’s orders 2015-2017.

Valentines Fact: Women’s Initiative.

In Japan, women are the gift-givers and are expected to give chocolate and other thoughtful gifts to men on Valentine’s Day. Men are expected to return the favor one month later on what is called “White Day” and present the women romantic gifts on March 14th.

Data Source: USA Today

Valentines Fact: Men Hate Red.

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Red is the most frequently requested color to avoid for Valentine’s day
Data Source: [ENCLOSED] Valentine’s orders, 2015-2017.

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Holiday Ideas To Spice Up Your Relationship

Spice Up Your Relationship With These Holiday Inspirations All Year Long

Looking for more excuses to spice up your relationship and celebrate with your partner? Of course you are, which is why the Knicker Ladies have some up with some extra fun and flirty holiday ideas to spice up your relationship. Keep these holiday ideas in mind next time you want an excuse for some date night fun!

New Years Eve: A Sexy Holiday To Celebrate Your Relationship

December 31 and January 1
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A New Year means new beginnings – take this day to look at your relationship in a new light. So, pop some champagne on New Year’s and celebrate the upcoming year with your lover. It is tradition to wear red underwear to guarantee passion and love in the New Year, or yellow underwear to help bring money and happiness into your life.  And if you need some special New Year’s undies, we have you covered . . .

Cuddle Up Day: Spice Up Your Relationship With Cuddle Time

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Because it’ll be cold outside, us this as an extra excuse to cozy up to that special someone. Not only does physical touch with your love make you feel warm, physical touch can communicate trust, commitment and reassurance – all vital to a strong relationship.

Spouse’s Day: Spice Up Your Night With Your Sexy Spouse

January 26

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Celebrated by people who are married, this holiday idea can be used to spice up your relationship by encouraging couples to celebrate all the joys marriage has brought them.

Send a Card to a Friend Day: A Holiday Idea to Celebrate Your Platonic Relationships

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At [Enclosed] we urge you to recognize all the relationships in your life – the romantic and non-romantic ones. Friends are the people you choose to have in your life. On this holiday, spice up your friendship by sending a personalized note or gift from you – a little pick-me-up they’ll love that lets them know you’re thinking of them.

 

Valentine’s Day: The Sexiest Holiday to Spice Up Your Relationship

February 14
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This romantic day attributed to St. Valentine has lovers around the world celebrating their relationships. Whether you celebrate Valentine’s Day in a big way or have an intimate experience with your lover, use this holiday to spice up your relationship in a non-traditional way. Skip the chocolates and flowers this year and instead come up with a creative and personal gift to give your valentine instead.

Singles Awareness Day: Spice Up How You Love Yourself

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Practice some self-love and treat yourself to something nice (because you deserve it.), or send something fun to a single friend that needs it on this day. Often celebrated by the unattached singles, spice up your holiday night by getting together with some friends, going out for dinner and drinks and meeting some new people. This day is all about feeling amazing about yourself, regardless of if you are in a relationship or not.

I Want You To Be Happy Day: Selflessness Can Be Sexy Too

March 3
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This day is meant to make someone you cherish in your life to feel special and happy. What’s that one thing she has been asking you to do with her, or that gift she has been hinting at for the longest time? Spice up your relationship and make it more intimate by setting aside your desires and making this day all about granting her wishes.

Steak and BJ Day

Spice Up your relationship with Date Night Dinner Cooking March 14

Yes, there’s a day for the gents that is certain to spice things up. One month after Valentine’s Day, is the official date for Steak and BJ Day. Men do not want candy or flowers. There are two things men want: steak and a blowjob. And we would add, their wife in some sexy panties while she gives a mind-blowing blowjob. So be sure to drop hints about this day to her!

Proposal Day: Celebrate The Big Day In A Big Way

March 20
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If you’ve been thinking about tying the knot with her, this day specifically celebrates couples that are ready to get married. Plan it out or have it be spontaneous, get down on one knee and finally pop the question. Keep in mind; she doesn’t have to only wear diamonds on her finger . . .

Lover’s Day: A Romantic Holiday For Your Lover

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If you missed a chance to celebrate Valentine’s Day, let her know just how much she means to you on this holiday by piling on the romance and starting off by sending her some sweet (and maybe some sexy) texts or other gifts throughout the day.

 

No Pants Day: Sexy Daytime Fun To Spice Up Your Relationship

1st Friday of May
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We love this holiday not only because it is silly and completely fun, but because it’s an excuse to show off our sexy knickers. Spend some time home alone with your significant other – wearing no pants. A surefire way to spice up your relationship on date night is to prepare some sexy underthings ahead of time for the both of you to play around in for the rest of the night. If you’re lucky you might just end up without underpants too.

Military Spouse Appreciation Day: Celebrate your Military Spouse in a Sexy way

Friday Before Mothers Day
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This day celebrates all the Military spouses out there and their  significant contributions, support, and sacrifices they make to the United States Armed Forces. These spouses are the backbone of military families and support our troops during mission, deployment, reintegration and reset. If you are a member of the military or know someone who is a Military spouse, show your appreciation for all their hard work and dedication.

Mother’s Day: Make Her Feel Sexy After Having Kids

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Celebrate Mother’s Day not for your mama – but instead for the mother of your children. (Yes, she is a MILF, right?) Use this holiday to spice up your relationship in ways you have not done before with your hot mama. Re-create your first date together, spend some quality time with her away from the stresses and worries of everyday life, or get creative and send her on a sexy scavenger hunt with thoughtful, sexy gifts for her to find based on memories you have together. Trust us, she’ll prefer that to the usual candies and chocolates.

National Sex Day: Next Level Moves Sure To Turn Up The Heat

June 9
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On the 9th day of the 6th month. Get it? Celebrate with sex position 69 on this 6/9 with your significant other. Whether you’re into 69ing or not, this is a great opportunity to try new things in the bedroom and add some exhilarating new sex positions to your repertoire that’ll spice up your relationship. This holiday is the perfect time to explore a few of your fantasies and get her to try out some very ultra-risqué clandestine knicker options so the both of you can have some sexy fun.

Red Rose Day: Shower Her With Flowers And Your Relationship Will Blossom

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Because red roses tend to be used as decoration in many cultures at wedding ceremonies, they are are now known to be the symbol of love and romance. On this day, couples present each other with red roses that represent their love. Not a fan of flowers? Instead gift her with something that evokes the same response to the beauty of flowers without the wilting. Regardless, red roses are a romantic way to spice up your relationship this holiday and will surely put a smile on her face.

Father’s Day: Spice Up Daddy’s Day Your Way

3rd Saturday in June
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A day to honor dads and appreciate everything he does. Leading up to every Father’s Day we receive requests from both men and ladies for some unique gift ideas – ones that go beyond the usual ties, socks, and shaving paraphernalia. Instead make sure to spice up your relationship with this holiday date idea and surprise the father of your children with a sensual massage, an intimate night with only you, ultra-sexy lingerie, and tantalizing IOUs and photos..

World Kissing Day: Holiday Idea To Kiss Her From Her Head To Toes

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The objective of this holiday is to enjoy a kiss with your lover. So go ahead, smooch it up all you want today. To make it even more fun and spice up your relationship day-to-day, don’t tell her that it is a holiday and surprise her with cute pecks, meaningful kisses, or full on smooches all throughout the day. We guarantee you, she will love the extra attention.

Girlfriend’s Day: Your Relationship Wouldn’t Be The Same Without Her

August 1
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Whether used to celebrate the special bond of friendship between women, or for couples to celebrate what makes girlfriends so special, this holiday celebrates all the unlimited ways life is better with your girlfriend in it. If you are a boyfriend looking to spoil and pamper your girlfriend on this day, celebrate in a way that makes her happy.

National Underwear Day: Spice Up Your Relationship With Extra-Sexy Skivvies

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We are all about national underwear day, and you should be too. Spice up your relationship this holiday by spending the entire day together wearing nothing but some fun underwear. Everything is more fun when you’ve stripped down to your skivvies – Just make sure you won’t be caught dead wearing ugly panties.

Kiss and Make Up Day: The Make Up Is Always The Best Part

August 25
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What would a relationship be without an argument, a fight, or a tiff once in a while? This day aims to celebrate the resolution to your argument – and instead focus on coming together and leaving your differences behind. Today is a day to get out of the doghouse, kiss and make up.

Wife Appreciation Day: Happy Wife, Happy Life On This Holiday Idea

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On wife appreciation day, husbands get to make up for missing Mother’s Day when there are no children in the marriage. Traditionally celebrated to show appreciation for everything their wives do to make them happy, husbands present them with gifts of flowers, perfume, jewelry, clothing or lingerie.

Love Note Day: Sexy Love Notes For Your Love

September 26
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Often times is easy to leave feelings left unsaid, but on this holiday idea spice up your relationship a little by writing messages of love to her in the form of a note. Carefully tuck them away in places for her to find for an unexpected surprise.. If you’re not a writer, the Knicker Ladies have plenty of Love Note examples for you to use.

Sweetest Day: Don’t Just Spice It Up, Make Your Relationship Sweeter

sweetest day holiday idea3rd Saturday in October

This Sweetest Day holiday idea can spice up your relationship by bringing the two of you closer together. Meant to recognize that sweet and special someone in your life, go on and shower your sweetheart with some sweets. Traditionally men give gifts of candies and chocolates to their sweetie, but as long as the gift is thoughtful and cute, anything goes.

 

Men Make Dinner Day: Use Some Spices To Spice Up Your Relationship

1st Thursday in November
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There’s nothing sexier than a man who knows how to cook . . . and this holiday seeks to encourage men who do not know how to, to learn a few skills. Whether you want to keep dinner simple and comforting or wow her with an extraordinary spread, throw on that apron, commandeer that grill, and use some exotic seasonings to spice up your relationship this holiday.

Giving Tuesday

1st Tuesday after Thanksgiving 
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This International day of giving takes place at the beginning of the Christmas holiday season. On this day people and organizations donate money and resources to charities and nonprofits in an event to counterbalance the commercialization and consumerism of the post-Thanksgiving season. So spread some holiday cheer, and donate to your favorite non-profit on this day! [ENCLOSED] proudly supports many non-profits and encourages everyone to take some time to volunter.

Hanukkah: Eight Days And Nights Of Romance

Celebrated for eight days and nights, and occurs anytime from late November to late December 
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This Jewish eight-day, wintertime holiday of Hanukkah is called the Festival of Lights, and is celebrated with a nightly menorah lighting, special prayers and fried foods such as doughnuts and latkes. Gather friends and family together to partake in this festive and happy holiday. Use these wonderful eight days to let your lover know just how much they mean to you.

Free Shipping Day: Extra Sexy Last-Minute Gifts To Spice Up Your Relationship

enclosed box packaging free shipping holidayDecember 15

If you hate shopping, and we know most men do, this national day will allow you to get your last minute online shopping in on this day. Most e-retailers will have some free shipping and holiday deals to make sure you get something special and nice for your ladylove in time for Christmas. Spice up your relationship by surprising her with something extra-sexy under the Christmas tree (body massager, invite to a boudoir couples photographer, luxury lingerie – you get the idea.)

Festivus:  A Festivus For The Rest Of Us!

festivus holiday celebration happy wifeDecember 23

Festivus is celebrated as a non-secular non-denominational holiday for anyone wishing to celebrate without partaking in Christmas or Hanukkah. So if you don’t celebrate these two holidays but still want to be merry, go ahead and be festive, jovial and lively this Festivus! Spice up your relationship by watching old episodes of Seinfeld, partaking in activities such as dining on Festivus dinner,  “Airing of Grievances and “Feats of Strength” Note, leave the tinsel behind, it gets distracting.

Christmas Eve and Day: Has She Been Naughty Or Nice This Year?

December 24 and 25
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Christmas is a wonderful time of year for family and giving. So spice up your holiday by brewing up some warm cocoa, snuggling up to your love under the mistletoe and enjoying the evening together listening to festive holiday music or watching your favorite Christmas movie. When it comes time to open presents, spread your holiday cheer and whisper in her ear “all I want for Christmas is you . . . naked” and it’ll make for very happy holidays indeed.

National Thank You Note Day: A Spicy Way To Show Your Appreciation

Holiday sexy lingerie gift December 26

With Christmas day over and all the presents opened and enjoyed, heartfelt thanks are in order. Receiving gifts can bring so much joy, but saying Thank You can almost feel better. This year, write her a personalized Thank You love note telling her why you are so in love with her and how incredibly sexy you find her. Make the Thank You love note as steamy as you like for a surefire way to spice up your relationship.

 

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Fun Lingerie Facts: Survey Results and Saucy Comments

Fun Lingerie Facts You Wish You Knew Earlier

After conducting an anonymous survey of our lingerie-loving Facebook followers, we were able to get a better understanding on your thoughts and choices around romantic, sexy gifts. There were no right or wrong answers, but there were many fun lingerie facts we came across . . . so we thought why not share our results with you. We hope you find these fun lingerie facts to be as enlightening as we did!

Fun Lingerie Fact #1: Receiving Lingerie Is Always Memorable

fun lingerie facts about women receiving lingerie This one is for all the men out there. You should know that 95% of women associate receiving lingerie from their partner with a positive experience. If that’s not a hint then we don’t know what is! As one woman put it, “My husband knows me well. He knows I like to have different things and that’s why he bought me my first subscription.

 

 

 

Fun Lingerie Fact #2: Women Are Deprived Of Lingerie

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Here’s another one for the boys. 45% of women – that’s a big number – have NOT received lingerie from their partner but would like to. It broke our hearts when we found out that almost half of women have gone through relationships without ever receiving a pair of sexy, saucy knickers. Men, you need to show her that she is still the most beautiful woman in the world and trust us, lingerie will do that for you.

Fun Lingerie Fact #3: Giving Lingerie Is Challenging

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And yes, as one man put it, we know choosing lingerie can be hard: “One time she liked what I chose and the next time she did not.” That’s why we’re here for you! As women, leave it up to the lingerie experts to hand pick a special pair for the woman in your life.

Fun Lingerie Fact #4: Lingerie Keeps The Romance Alive

women lingerie giftRead some of the comments below and come to understand how giving lingerie does great things for one’s relationship:

  • “The best value, and it is a gift that keeps on giving! There should be an option for a lifetime subscription . . . “
  • “It adds an extra thrill to the bedroom and coming home from work undressing each other.”
  • “Just the foreplay that these products have is amazing.”
  • “This service is so easily accessed and fun for all involved.”
  • “It’s the best deal and I like surprising my wife every month.”

Fun Lingerie Fact #5: Quality Lingerie Is Not Cheap

But, as some of our responders noticed, Enclosed is high end, luxury and therefore expensive. 38% of people found us to be too expensive. Some insisted on “buying a gift that is more within my budget” while one responded with the reasoning “gotta start making money with my new job first.”

Fun Lingerie Fact #6: It Improves Your Bedroom Situation

red teddy thong lingerie giftNot surprisingly, the number one reason people would purchase this gift would be as a sexy gift for a significant other, which comes in at 63%. Second, at 56% they would buy lingerie as a “gift for us,” and the third reason at 52% as a romantic gift for a significant other. Clearly, this gift hints towards sensual, intimate and romantic.

Fun Lingerie Facts #7: It Is Not For Everyone

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Nevertheless, there are still 5% of women who have NOT received lingerie from their partner and would NOT like it. I guess we can’t please everyone. Hopefully your woman is not part of that tiny percentage.

Fun Lingerie Fact #8: San Francisco Women Are Kinky

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When just looking at women in the San Francisco area, a whopping 96% have shopped at Victoria’s Secret – not a shock there. But, interestingly enough 58% of women have purchased something from Good Vibrations or other sex stores. Hmmmm . . . does this say something about women from the Bay Area or just women in general?

Fun Lingerie Fact #9: Women give Other Women Lingerie As Well

lace underwear customerAnd lastly, what if women wanted to purchase this kind of gift? Who for and why would they gift it? Here are the top three occasions women would gift lingerie: first, for a bachelorette party, second to treat themselves, and third as a “gift for us” (them and their significant other).

 

 

 

 

 

The Fun Of Giving Lingerie

easy-sexy-present-delighted-customerIn conclusion, what we have found is that lingerie is a gift that almost everyone can enjoy. (But not everyone. Think mother-in-law!) Lingerie works wonderfully for those that gift it to their significant other, but we have also found that knowing what kinds of lingerie to gift can be quite tricky. If you don’t know what to give her, or would like a lingerie expert’s input, trust the Knicker Ladies to help you. (Read some customer testimonials here . . . )